“I am not allowed to make eyebrows” said she
“I am not allowed to make friends” said she
“I am not allowed to go anywhere alone” said she
“My mother braids my hair still” said a 28 year old woman to me
“How can you live like this?” asked I
“I am used to it” said she
“Don’t you feel suffocated?” asked I
“I can not do anything about it. I am happy the way I am. I now dont know how to make my own decisions. I need to call my mother for it” said she
“But why?” asked I
“My mother has sacrificed a lot for me, this is my duty to give her that happiness” said she
The Act of Sacrifice or Act of Love?
Is it same or are they different?
Why does love demand sacrifice?
Why does another persons happiness demand this sacrifice?
Why is it that this world instead of finding happiness within themselves, demands it off other persons happiness?
“Love” they say is the binding force, the most powerful medicine there is, the most powerful mantra, the foundation of everything, one that is already complete.
Yet why, why in order to be proved does it demand sacrifices?
Every one in this world has a right to live their life. Everyone has the right to be free. Free to sleep, free to talk, free to love, free to explore.
We are not bound to anyone. We are not born for slavery. We are born to rejoice under the name of God. We are here to know the freedom of spirit.
It is only in freedom, can a spirit grow.
It is only in freedom, that birds fly.
It is only in freedom, that water flows.
It is only in freedom, that love grows.
And yet, why is that humans are bound to this chain of their body full of limitations?
I quote Kahlil Gibran from his book “The Definitive” — “Before the throne of Freedom, the trees rejoice with the frolicsome breeze and enjoy the rays of the sun and beams of the moon. Through the ears of Freedom these birds whisper and around Freedom they flutter to the music of the brooks. Throughout the sky of Freedom these flowers breathe their fragrance and before Freedom’s eyes they smile when dawn comes”
Yes “Freedom”, a word but in it is held the the purpose of the life that has been given to us.
A word which has made men fight battles.
A word which has brought out revolutions and laws of its own.
A word which has caused men like “Hitler” to kill himself.
A word which has changed the face of the world.
But despite of freedom from slavery, despite of the laws which makes no one a slave to the other, is Man really free?
Are we really free?
We are still slaves to our relations, slaves to our body, slaves to our emotions, slave to our own thinking and thus we have demanded sacrifices from other people because we think they owe it to us, because our ego demands it of other people to satisfy itself.
We demand sacrifices for those dreams which we could not achieve.
We demand sacrifices for the love we have given to our children.
And some don’t even demand, sacrifices are given freely in the name of love.
Why? Because we have been taught from the very beginning of the life we breathed that to get anything we need to give.
Its only when you give, is when you get back.
But does giving really means sacrificing?
I continue quoting Kahlil Gibran — “Everything on earth lives according to the law of nature, and from that law emerges the glory and joy of liberty; but man is denied this fortune, because he set for the God-given soul a limited and earthly law of his own. He made for himself strict rules. Man built a narrow and painful prison in which he secluded his affections and desires. He dug out a deep grave in which he buried his heart and its purpose.”
According to dictionary and google the word “give” means “to freely transfer the possession of something to someone”. Other synonyms include “allow”, “permit”, “grant”.
Again according to the dictionary and google the word “sacrifice” means “Act of slaughtering, to slaughter for the sake of others considerations”. Other synonyms are “abandon”, “surrender”,”forgo” etc.
So are we really giving or are we really sacrificing?
Who are those, who give?
Who are those, who sacrifice?
If we ask Men, their answer will be the same. We sacrifice because we want to so its an act of giving, but are we really doing so or is it just another act of being appreciated by another human? Another act of getting love? What is it?
And what of those who does not? Are they well loved? Are they well appreciated?
A child is not a good child, if it does not sacrifice its happiness for all that its parents have done for it.
A lover is not a good lover, if it does not sacrifice its happiness for the love of another human being it is in love with.
A parent is not a good parent, if she does not let go of all their desires for the sake of the child.
Can we not keep our own happiness and provide to others the freedom to do so too?Why does an act towards ourselves demands sacrifices of other? Can we not provide for us and also for others with the same conviction? Why does ones happiness comes at the cost of another? Why does fading of one twinkling eye demands death of millions dreams?
Life has been provided to us in abundance, giving everyone everything to enjoy, to rejoice, to have. There is unlimited supply for everyone, yet why is it that we are asked to see only those that meets our eye?
Why is it that we sacrificing to go to Heaven, when it is here where Heaven exists, where God resides? Why is it that we are sacrificing material possessions, dreams, happiness of others , of our own when it is only the love from our heart that is asked?
Humans they say is a social animal and yet it is the very society that has demanded more sacrifices of us than God himself. In the name of God we have been taught to give. But are we giving freely?
We are not freely giving, we are merely sacrificing in order to get something in return, because when it is an act of giving, there is no expectation, there is no value to be demanded in return.
Jesus who gave to us from love asked no one to follow him or understand him or even worship him.
He gave freely his wisdom, his knowledge, his love.
He lived with the purpose of his heart. He lived in Freedom of Spirit.
But yet again, the social law demanded a sacrifice, sacrifice of his life, sacrifice of his desire.
Quoting Kahlil Gibran again – “If an individual, through the dictates of his soul, declare his withdrawal from the society and violates the law, his fellowmen will say he is a rebel worthy of exile, or an infamous creature worthy only of execution. Will man remain a slave of self-confinement until the end of the world? Or will he be freed by the passing of time and live in the Spirit for the Spirit? Will man insist upon staring downward and backward at the earth? Or will he turn his eyes toward the Sun so he will not see the shadow of his body among’st the skull and thorns?”